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So, Travis's company is opening an office in London and Travis wants to apply to go there. I told him he can go straight to hell, that as much as London sounds like a lovely place, Im not moving out of the country. Especially not for an undetermined amount of time, when Im supposed to be going to culinary school, when he cant guarantee what his salary would be over there, and when we could still be over there when we want to start having kids. Not happening. That, and I know all of 4 people in all of England. It's not happening. No way, no how. Call me close-minded, tell me I'm silly for not taking this opportunity, but its just not happening. No trans-atlantic flights to see friends and family for me.

However, there is another possibility fuzzily appearing on the horizon. Nothing formal has been offered yet, so this is really just me being anxious over things I cant change. Because of the new London office and everything, there will be some restructuring in the company. This means that there is a good likelihood that they will be talking to Travis about being promoted to a manager level position. This means that, again, they will be pushing us to move to Philly. As opposed to the times they've pushed in the past, this would actually be for a pretty sizeable promotion, which most likely means a pretty sizeable raise.

I still dont want to move there, and here's why:
1.) Its almost a 13 hour drive from Lake Zurich to King of Prussia. While I may not want to live all that near to my parents, I sure as shit dont want to live 13 hours away.
2.) I dont want to either delay culinary school or go through the pain in the ass of finding a new school to go to out there. Once I've started culinary school, any and all suggestions of moving are off unless the moving includes a raise to six figures.
3 (quite possibly the biggest issue). We dont know a soul in King of Prussia or Philly. We have one friend in the whole state, and he lives all the way over in Pittsburgh. We both absolutely SUCK at making new friends, and would pine for our old ones. I dont want to have to deal with making a new group of friends.
4.) My navigation skills suck, and their roads are insanely hard to figure out. I'd never stop getting lost.
5.) We might get shot if we root for the Bears when they play the Eagles. I dont wanna get shot.

So that's the scoop, kids. Terri freaking out about something that isnt even really guaranteed to happen yet. You know, the usual.

PS - Play opens tonight, biatches! Come see it!

Date: 2007-02-23 09:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mrks-redflame.livejournal.com
If I could come see your play, I'd be there like a shot as I know all too well how lovely it is to play to a packed house knowing that your family/loved ones/buddies are in the audience watching you and beaming with pride.

However it is a hell of a long way to fly, so much as I'd love to, it's not feasible. So I'll just send massive hugs and the biggest wish of "break a leg" ever!

xxxx

Date: 2007-02-24 12:06 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] terrorlynn.livejournal.com
*grins* I'll see you soon enough gorgeous! Thanks for the well wishes :)

Date: 2007-02-23 10:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nykki.livejournal.com
First: Don't you like flying? If Trav is making good enough money, then you'll be able to afford the flights to hit home. I'm sure he'll be more than happy to let "you" go. ;-)

Second: There are really good cooking schools in Philly. Well, good everything, but good cooking schools as well.

Third: Root for the Bears quietly, or in your own home. People will understand, and likely appreciate since they'll understand, the loyalty. Any sports fan appreciates loyalty.

Fourth: Making friends does suck. But you'll be in an environment (school) and he'll be at work, another environment, to get started. There's tons of gaming, including a LARP in Philly to meet people. And it's one of the top places we'll end up in two years, if you care.

Finally: Screw you and your play, beotch!

Date: 2007-02-24 12:06 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] terrorlynn.livejournal.com
Yeah, I just dont want to freaking deal with finding another school, finding a place to live, finding a job, making new friends, AND keeping my sanity and marriage safe and sound.

:P

Date: 2007-02-23 10:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kikibear14.livejournal.com
Break a leg my dear, or even better- "pinch a pancreas!"-- (that's our happy bodily alternative in my family:)

As far as all the moving stuff goes- take it with a grain of salt...changing jobs, locations can be very stressful- even just the thought of it can make anyone crazy...so try to relax and go with the flow...ultimately- you need to do what's best for your family- (you and Travis)--if you're going to be miserable in London or Philly- then you shouldn't go--but- when opportunity comes a'knocking...it's a good idea to answer the door. Culinary school can happen in both of these places- people need to eat in England too!:) Hang in there...start talking with Travis seriously about this when you guys have more information--in the meantime-it should be more fun to daydream about a new place than stressful...you'll always have your friends here in IL...and you would make more wherever you go-no worries.

Date: 2007-02-24 12:04 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] terrorlynn.livejournal.com
Thank you dear! By the way, I added you back. :) You rock.

Moving is just a very frightening thought to me. With my bipolar, Im always wary of doing anything rash or sudden that might upset the careful balance i've wrought in my life. We'll see what happens when Travis goes out to Philly in a week or two.

Date: 2007-02-23 11:10 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] shimmerngspirit.livejournal.com
You're insane! I have nothing going on here that I wouldn't drop in a hot minute to live in London for a while. It's a gorgeous city in a really cool country. I *heart* London.

Date: 2007-02-24 12:05 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] terrorlynn.livejournal.com
I would imagine its cool. I'd love to visit it. And yeah, I do wear a great big pair of crazy pants.

However, I just cant imagine living there. I love Illinois...which sounds super lame, but i cant help it. I've always wanted to stay in the midwest!

Date: 2007-02-24 12:17 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] shimmerngspirit.livejournal.com
Break a leg tonight!

Tough Love

Date: 2007-02-24 12:14 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nhyrvana.livejournal.com
On the London issue: If you moved there I would move there too. Instantly. That's like a once in a lifetime opertunity to live there!

As for your list (and this is the tough love part):
1. So fly home. Flights from Philly to Chicago are frequent and probably not that expensive.
2. This was valid. (But I would think a city the size of Philly would also have good schools.)
3. That's bullshit. You guys are great at making new friends. You are just comfortable right now and this would take you out of your comfort zone. Growth is good!
4. Also bullshit. You are a smart capable woman who just needs a decent map.
5. Also bullshit. Puh-lease. How awesome would it be to show up for a Bears away game in Philly to cheer them on when they are far from home? It would be epic.

Honestly my love, it sounds like you are making excuses because a move would be hard to do at first, it would be a big change, and it would cause you to step into a new place in your life that is unfamiliar and out of your confort zone. But stuff like that is GOOD. It causes you to grow and expand your experiences, making you into a wiser person than you are now.

Of the London and Philly question, which is better for Travis in the long run where his career lies? REALLY. Okay so it may set you back on your career schedule. Roll with it. Who knows, this might put you in the exact perfect school you need to be in, making the right contacts for you to get into the industry with.

---------------------------------

I wish I could be there for your opening night.
Deepest appologies.

-emily

Can't...hold...back...

Date: 2007-02-24 01:35 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rinifer.livejournal.com
1. Having to spend a boatload of money to see people sucks. This is legitimate. If the opportunity is good enough, though, you might find a way to deal. By far the best point.
2. There are many places you can go for what you want to do. Don't fixate on one just b/c you've applied there. The school year is nowhere close to starting.
3. In the time I've known you you've moved twice and made a boatload of friends both places (including me). Don't hide behind imagined fears. Besides, you plan to move to Chicago soon, and you don't know very many people in the city proper there either, but you plan to deal.
4. The roads where you are from are ridiculous, too. In my current town I can tell you the cardinal directions, but back home everything curves. You know this.
5. Just watch games with Travis. You have a big TV.

If you don't want to go, don't go, but don't make up reasons. Just leave it at a "I'd rather not".

Date: 2007-02-24 01:52 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rinifer.livejournal.com
I feel kinda bad ganging up on the girl with all of the logic and the whatnot.

Maybe it would be better if you and I got matching jackets and skipping around while snapping. That's what gangs do, right?

Date: 2007-02-24 02:12 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nhyrvana.livejournal.com
OMG! THE HEATHERS

-emily

Date: 2007-02-24 04:07 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rinifer.livejournal.com
No, West Side Story. Rawr I'm a Shark.

Date: 2007-02-24 04:58 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nhyrvana.livejournal.com
But when you're a Jet you're a Jet all the way from your first cigarette to you're last dyin' day!

-emily

Date: 2007-02-25 04:36 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] masterropeknot.livejournal.com
Hey there,

Come to ye olde London town ;) we can introduce you to loads of people some of whom you might actually like and want to be friends with ;) :)

I understand the hugeness of the situations, but look at the adventure side of things, it could be a once in a life time chance!

Knot only that but it would help keep my phone bill down.

We look forward to catching up with you both in may huge hugs my darling
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