First of all, if you don't come and clean my house (for free) at least two days a week for the rest of my academic career, I won't be your friend.
See how easy it was for you to think "fuck you bitch"? You need those instincts.
Here's how I would handle this, if it were me: When someone asks you to do something that you don't want to do, or don't like the asker, tell them you have to get back to them. Sure they'll be annoyed; but annoying people can be fun. Then take some time and decide if it's worth it. Would it forge a new friendship with someone you don't know very well? Would you feel better about yourself for doing a good deed? Are you the last possible person to help a desperate friend who would totaly do the same back for you? WOULD the person do it if you asked them to? Are you exhausted after working for ten hours and just want to take a bath, drink some wine, and go to sleep? Do they have others that can help them instead of you?
Decide how you feel about it, then give them an answer. Unless it's "gotta do it now" there's no reason you have to answer them right away. And odds are, even if it's "now", it's not really now. They're just impatient, or trying to bully people into doing what they want.
My god woman, develop some balls, tell people no, and enter the realm of the inner bitch with the rest of us.
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Date: 2006-12-03 03:36 pm (UTC)See how easy it was for you to think "fuck you bitch"? You need those instincts.
Here's how I would handle this, if it were me: When someone asks you to do something that you don't want to do, or don't like the asker, tell them you have to get back to them. Sure they'll be annoyed; but annoying people can be fun. Then take some time and decide if it's worth it. Would it forge a new friendship with someone you don't know very well? Would you feel better about yourself for doing a good deed? Are you the last possible person to help a desperate friend who would totaly do the same back for you? WOULD the person do it if you asked them to? Are you exhausted after working for ten hours and just want to take a bath, drink some wine, and go to sleep? Do they have others that can help them instead of you?
Decide how you feel about it, then give them an answer. Unless it's "gotta do it now" there's no reason you have to answer them right away. And odds are, even if it's "now", it's not really now. They're just impatient, or trying to bully people into doing what they want.
My god woman, develop some balls, tell people no, and enter the realm of the inner bitch with the rest of us.
Or... come clean my house.