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[terrorlynn]

I just had a horrible realization (they happen a lot when im left alone to think too much).

I've always wanted kids. Particularly, I've always wanted babies. When they get older, they rock, but Im really partial to babies.

I think this is because I want something/someone that needs me. Not just needs me to do certain things, but inherently NEEDS me to continue to exist.

I need to be needed in order to feel good about myself. I can bust my ass for people over and over and over again, as long as I feel like whatever I've done for them can only be done by me.

I want my husband home now.

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[uncle-twitchy.livejournal.com]

Of course you do and of course you do.

Patience, my dear.

I'll be picking you up 'bout a quarter to 7 -- even though rehearsal is scheduled to start after the Membership meeting, I have to be there as a Board Member.

So much to tell you...

[libraterra.livejournal.com]

*nods* I totally understand. It's a crazy/awesome feeling to know that I need to exist for Chase. I love it.

[chuckdawg.livejournal.com]

I've read your post a few times, and here's my question:

Do you consider this desire to be needed to be good or bad? Or more accurately, do you consider it constructive or destructive to your general well-being? Is it healthy or unhealthy?

I've been wrestling with this concept myself recently, not in terms of babies, but in general. I think that those who have a need to be needed can end up in some pretty unhealthy situations if left unchecked. So does that mean that needing to be needed is something that needs to be treated like a disorder?

I'm not calling anyone crazy, and I'd be lying if I said I didn't think the same way as you most of the time. I'm just curious as to how that desire has affected my life and the lives of those around me.

[citrinepoint.livejournal.com]

ugh. You'd be surprised how quickly that little daydream of wanting to be needed 24/7 wears off.

[farawaypoints.livejournal.com]

I think this is because I want something/someone that needs me. Not just needs me to do certain things, but inherently NEEDS me to continue to exist.

I think I would be a terrible mom, for that reason and that reason alone.

[cheetahvet.livejournal.com]

I know it's not the same, but I need you. I love you. I can't believe how different life is without you in the same town. It's tough, but you will pull through, just like last time. I'm glad you're not in therapy, cuz it'd just be another expense. I look forward to when you live in Chicago.

I miss you. I love you. I need you, more than you'll know.

[nhyrvana.livejournal.com]

I need you to call me sometime very soon.

-emily